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Tuesday, August 21, 2012

My Sexist Views

Edmund Leighton [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons
I have recently been called "sexist" in my "preaching of modesty", because I have focused on the need for modesty on the part of women, rather than addressing both genders in my posts.  I agree that men should be mindful of supporting the purity, chastity, and marital faithfulness of women. Certainly they should not act to incite lust.  However, I think that the reality is that men have more of a challenge in terms of taming their thoughts than women do.  All feminist angst aside, I believe that is just the truth.

It is correct though, that I am sexist.  Here are some of my sexist beliefs:

Men have a duty to provide for the well being and protection of the women for whom they are responsible.

Men have a responsibility to keep themselves, and their friends, in line so that women are not exposed to the garbage that runs out of the mouths of folks these days.  A woman ought to be able to be in the presence of a man and his friends without being exposed to smut.  If a man has chosen women friends who share in the general society's lack of decency, then he ought to ask those women friends to please keep the language and content of their communication under control as well.  This includes his social media pages.

Men have a responsibility to prepare themselves to support a wife and children.  Spending ones teens and twenties mastering video games, while foregoing responsibility. does not accomplish this.

It is incumbent upon men that they control their own thoughts and passions, regardless of the way that women around them dress or behave.

And....drum role please....yes, men have a responsibility to avoid running around the neighborhood in a level of undress that might incite their sisters in Christ to lust.  In light of the fact that droves of women recently visited the theater to view a movie about a gentleman named "Mike", I suppose this may be more of an issue these days than I give it credit for.  Somehow, I'm losing far less sleep over the last item on that list than I am over the prior ones, though.

Pax Christi, Dear Ones,
Those of you who are raising up sons to the Lord have a mighty responsibility and you are in my prayers,

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  1. I'd definitely be labeled sexist if you are (then again I probably have been! :0) ).

    I'd never even thought of the male side of modesty as an issue until we moved to Florida...

    And then the issue became controlling my gag reflex and not saying: "Ewwwwww!" out loud because there are just way too many speedo wearing men in that state that needed way, way more clothes.

    Oh how I love having moved north again!

  2. Amen sister! I agree with all of these things. I think the crux of this issue is the myth that sexual liberation really liberates. I bought into this idea too in my youth and am merely lucky to have landed a husband who at least knew what his role was as a husband and father.

    If it really liberates why do I have so many married friends whose husbands play video games istead of mowing the lawn? Or pressure their wives to work just to have more luxuries when they really want to stay home with the baby? Or why the heck do all my unmarried friends have such a hard time finding a good man, even into their 30's and 40's? Could it possibly be that dressing provocatively, trying to be like men, and eliminating traditional family roles has really not been so liberating after all??

    Okay, I'm on a bit of a roll but my husband tells me that often he will meet a nice girl (he works in a restaurant) with a baby. They share some common interests, have a pleasant conversation, and then she asks if there ia a "babymama"? Yes, that is a real term now. As soon as he says yes, that I'm at home with the kids they frown and basically leave. I think it's all really sad.


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