|By TIFFANY DAWN NICHOLSON (TDNphoto) from Chicago, usa (_DSC7698)|
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Marriage matters because it is about trust and permanence. It is about creating safety for children and a place where they can feel secure that those they love today will be here for them tomorrow.
Marriage matters because it encircles, in constancy, the physical giving of self which creates life, and shields that action from devaluation. Marriage affirms that physical union is much more than physical, but also creates a permanent linking of hearts and souls that is not broken without creating permanent fissures.
Marriage matters because it is assurance that before you break your heart wide open to give it to another, you can trust in that person's intention to stay around to protect your wide open heart.
Marriage matters because once you engage in sexual activity you are not simply engaging in recreation or demonstration of affection, you are becoming one with another person, forever changing the framework of your emotional and spiritual being, and inviting the creation of life. We all know that contraception is not foolproof. If you are inviting the creation of life outside of the bonds of marriage, you are inviting a child to live life without a father. Marriage matters because children need fathers and society needs children to have them.
Sure, marriage is not a guarantee of commitment to lifelong union for some, but electing not to marry guarantees it for no one. Certainly, there are individual circumstances and people fall short of the ideal, but that is no reason to voluntarily scrap ideals all together. Marriage matters because you matter and children matter and society-at-large matters.