(Elyse is participating in YALs Virtue Challenge. Last week's virtue was "Patience." She will be posting weekly about her experiences. You will find more about the Virtue Challenge and a linkup of posts here. Elyse is 18 years old. She is a sophomore in college working toward a degree in Microbiology. She assists in the Veil Shop and enjoys reading, writing, and time with friends.)
Week Two: Patience
So
this week I worked on patience. I’m trying to ruminate on this week’s events to find the best example of patience that I experienced. Having class only two
days a week doesn’t necessarily proffer many opportunities to seek out
particular virtues! Yet at the same time, these virtues suffuse life in every
aspect, and when I get down to the nitty-gritty, I notice that the simplest
things can be used as examples.
This
week I met a girl in my beginning piano class. (Though I doubt she, or anyone I
mention, will ever read this blog, I’ll keep names to myself just for the sake
of privacy.) She came in a bit late (to class, and to the entire course) and I
offered to let her share my piano for the lesson she had attended. As class
progressed, she explained to me about how she was on the waiting list and how
none of what we were doing was making any sense of her. I understood this,
because without the basics, piano is confusing as heck. Just like any
instrument.
But
as class went on, she kept talking. I found it hard to concentrate, and found
myself getting lost while trying to be kind and contributory to her and her
conversation as well as following the lesson. Then after class she walked with
me as I headed down to my car.
It
was then that she explained she had just moved to town, and wasn’t having an
easy time making friends. She told me it was difficult for her, because she had
moved from a big city and where she now lived was just about opposite from
where she was used to. I found out that she was used to being surrounded by
people and was voted most talkative in her old yearbook. I could see why—I couldn’t
get a word in edgewise. But although it was a little rankling, it was more
important to me that I try to be friendly to her because I understood why she
was a bit uncomfortable. My only hope now is that she finds some great friends
to spend her time with.
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Ecclesiastes 7:9
Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.
You have shown much maturity in how you handled this young girl. One of the best ways we can show love to someone is to listen to them. She was finding it hard to concentrate because she had other things on her mind. As you gave her an outlet to talk and to be heard, I bet she will be able to concentrate better in the future.
ReplyDeleteLearning to listen is hard and whew...requires patience. It's beautiful to see in a young woman.
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